Dating in santa monica
Showing up late, not showing up at all and breaking promises can then become the norm.
When that happens enough times to enough people, you end up in a legendarily flaky city, and social and dating life encounter more obstacles. The transience of the city’s entertainment culture adds an aura of impermanence and unreliability to social ties.
So when I found myself back in LA after a long hiatus, it was a bit of a homecoming.
I looked forward to perpetually sunny climes, rollerblading on the boardwalk, and the general openness of the people.
A quarter of people like going to the beach in Malibu, which sounds fine.
Fewer than 6 percent prefer hiking to the Hollywood Sign, which is probably all right with the neighbors.
This casual, unforced, unpremeditated contact is the cornerstone of building social relations.
That’s why our closest friends tend to come from work and school.
This statistic alone may be the single biggest cause of the lackluster love lives of singles in LA. Large distances in the world’s biggest city create a real barrier to intimacy.
For the first two years, I just assumed I had suddenly gotten ugly and stupid.
Then I heard multitudes of other people voicing similar experiences.
Here’s the psychology of what I think happens: once you’ve been late or missed an appointment for reasons beyond your control, your brain has to make a choice: “I’m flaky so I’m a bad person” vs.
“Flakiness is okay.” To avoid cognitive dissonance, the unconscious choice that most people make is to validate the unintended bad behavior.-- We're just going to close our eyes and type very fast through this part: men want to date models, actresses, and personal trainers; women want to date "high-powered entertainment executives" and, somewhat oddly, personal chefs.